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The Power Of A Woman

The Power  Of A Woman
Lila Morar in her beloved garden with her grandchild.
September 10
09:28 2016


This story begins on a cool winters evening in Lautoka, Fiji on June 9, 1941. The day the sound of twin babies being born echoed through the thin walls of the small shops in the city.

Sorrow and joy was to strike as the first twin was pronounced dead, but the second was a fighter and slowly, but surely got stronger as days and weeks passed.

It was a girl and was given the beautiful multicultural name Lila – she was a happy and loving child who brought laughter and happiness to all in the household and beyond.

At the age of five, Lila Morar’s beloved mother travelled to Gujarat, India where Lila’s oldest sister, whom none of the other siblings had ever met was getting married.

News of the marriage in a telegram from India was met once again with sorrow and joy.

Lila’s mother who was only about 30-years-old was preparing to get ready when she suffered a stroke and died on the morning of her eldest daughters marriage. The marriage went ahead and only after the ceremony finished was the horrifying news relayed.

Back in Fiji, Lila and her three siblings were left without a mother and to make matters worse Lila’s father was suddenly thrust into the role of mother and father as well as provider for the young family.

This was too much for her father who had four young children to look after and he went into a state of shock. Luckily there was a good support system of friends and family in the vicinity and regardless of how bad things got, you could rely on Lila to light up the house with her softly spoken voice and loving presence.

Lila’s spiritual conscious was aroused when she attended St Thomas School in Lautoka as a young girl and took great interest in the Christian faith. Her love for her own father was unconditional and she would do what she could to raise his spirits and encourage him to smile.

Lila became a stunning looking young woman and as was the Hindu tradition in those days, she was married in 1960 at the age of 18 and was a mother before 21. Sometime after this, the small family decided to move to London. Before the age of 30, Lila had three children, all of whom where boys.

Her parenting skills in the 1970s and 1980s was one of winning the hearts of her children and always having a quiet and soft demeanour which won over all that knew her. Her children witnessed the non-violence and passive way of life that Lila chose preferring to love all and serve all.

Lila’s home in London was used as a stopover for everyone and anyone who was visiting both domestically and internationally and thus usually full of friends and family and even friends of friends who may need a warm bed and a hearty meal – no one was turned away.

In her small spiritual temple at home was Mother Mary and Jesus from the Christian faith, also many of the Hindu Gods which represented her birth religion and also a little figure of Muhammad Ali the Iconic Boxer which her youngest son had placed there.

In a unique way all the major religions were represented in that temple of love at home, from Christianity, Hinduism and Islam and Lila wouldn’t have it any other way.

In fact Lila made pilgrimages to the Vatican in Italy and Lourdes in France, visited all the holy temples of India as well as visiting Jerusalem and paying respects to significant Christian, Islamic and Jewish sites.

As a hobby she is a keen gardener and environmentalist where she planted fruits and vegetables in her large 50 metre garden and would cook meals from the garden produce for the all the family and friends.

Fast forward to today and at the age of 75 years, Lila is still not interested in fame, fortune or power, but continues to leave an incredible footprint of love, compassion and forgiveness not just with her three children and eight grandchildren who she has been raising, but everybody connected with her.

This simple and selfless soul I write about is my beloved mother who is worshiped and admired by all our family.

Finally, I commend all women and mothers of all faiths for you are our real heroes.

Mother Teresa – “Not all of us can do great things, But we can do small things with great love”

Edited by Jonathan Bryce



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