Opinion

Trust your friends

Written By : Sun Fiji Newsroom. Trust must be present in any relationship before there can be true intimacy. Trust must first come from with in; it is an internal
10 Jun 2008 12:00

image Written By : Sun Fiji Newsroom. Trust must be present in any relationship before there can be true intimacy. Trust must first come from with in; it is an internal virtue that emanates outward.Behaviour can mislead us, but the internal virtues of being faithful, caring, honest, dependable and loyal are the bedrocks of trust.
Trust is not a virtue that is automatically present in a relationship.Rather; it is a quality developed gradually over time. Trust must be nurtured. In the secret of loving, Josh McDowell writes, “I believe trustworthiness is simply, a reflection of what we are like deep down inside and what we have proved ourselves to be, and it takes time to build this quality into our character”
As good friends, we are proven trustworthy over time by choosing to be faithful; caring, honest, dependable and loyal. Each day we are faced with thousands of choices, most of which are small ones which seem insignificant.However, sometimes we make the kinds of choices that lead to the question, who would know if I did something I think no one will see?Ironically,the answer to that question is often that many people will know.
All of our small choices help determine our character-what we are like deep down inside-and none of us can hide his or her character for long, whether good or bad.
Give enough time, people read us fairly and accurately, discovering almost unerringly, who we are.
Then we wonder why people some times respond to us differently than we expect them to. It is because they have read our characters and have concluded how much or how little they can trust us, when people don’t trust us, they probably won’t tell us to our faces, but their actions will reveal it
We have the power to change all that, no matter what our reputation maybe. We can choose to repair any breaches of trust among old friends and build up new levels of trust among others. We must to that if we want to develop intimate friendships.
Intimacy involves vulnerability and the risk of allowing friends a glimpse at the inside of us. An old Arabian proverb confirms this: A friend is one to whom one may out all the contents of one’s heart, chatt and grain together, knowing that the gentlest of hands will take and sift it, Keep what is worth keeping and with the breath of kindness blow the rest away.

GOD BLESS MY FRIENDS
By Deepal


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