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SAY WHAT IS ON your mind

Written By : SUN FIJI NEWSROOM. Before I discuss about different forms of face-to-face communication between people, it’s important to consider how many ways there are of communicating that do
07 Jan 2011 12:00

image Written By : SUN FIJI NEWSROOM. Before I discuss about different forms of face-to-face communication between people, it’s important to consider how many ways there are of communicating that do not require people being together- like this article. In today’s high-tech world, mediated communication influences our working, public and private lives to an astounding degree, and we often have little information about the source, the reliability, or the validity of the message. Journalist Allen Garr writes communication is an illusion that supports and encourages dishonesty. According to Garr, “What is variously called the electronic age, the digital age, or the age of virtual reality has turned us into a culture of fabricators and fibbers. The human element has been removed from the communications equation and replaced by illusion.
Have you ever…
l Spent 30 minutes pushing buttons on your phone to get to the information you want and suddenly have the line go dead?
l Phone someone who “screened you out” and didn’t pick up the phone?
l Rehearsed the message you want to convey, or written it down, only to be tongue-tied when your call was answered by a human being?
l Told a friend not to answer the phone so that you can leave a message?

All this technology creates a virtual reality, leaving people hungry for old fashioned methods of communication with breathing, thinking, caring human beings. The lost of the art of conversation is currently experiencing a revival.
Conversation is defined in one dictionary as “good talk practiced as an art” and may take the form of discussion, which simply refers to “verbal exchange of ideas”; or debate, which means to “discuss thoroughly as in a formal discussion under certain rules of procedure”.
Have you ever thought that you can change your world with words? We need only think of some of the great people and phrases we associate with them to realize how much impact speaking has. To name a few, Martin Luther King’s “I have a dream”: John F. Kennedy’s “Ask not what your country can do for you, ask what you can do for your country”. These words changed the world. They changed our world. In your own world, your words can add joy to a celebration, they can have a positive impact on your child’s education, they can inspire a friend, or they can land you a job.
Speaking your mind is so important that doing it can change how you feel about yourself. Every day in every way, speaking your mind builds confidence and a sense of joy in life.
It helps us face problems by articulating our feelings. Asserting yourself in a positive way is a key part of speaking your mind.
There is nothing that feels quite as good as expressing your deepest thoughts concerning something of meaning and value to you, knowing that people are listening and that they understand exactly what you are saying and how you feel.
Speaking your mind is a key component of mental fitness. It is satisfying to think clearly, critically, and creatively. But if you don’t speak your mind, you cannot engage the world. If you are mentally fit, you have “a good head on your shoulder,” and if you have lived for 40, 50, or 100 years, you have learned and experienced things that other people need and want to hear about. You have a perspective on the important things in life that is supported by well-tested beliefs and values.

HAVING THE RIGHT Conversational Skills
The ability to speak effectively can be learned by anyone and is an invaluable asset in all aspects of our lives – personal, professional, social and volunteer. It is important for well-being, self-confidence, and self-esteem. There is a great deal of personal satisfaction in being able to present ideas clearly and concisely. And, really, when you think about it, conversation is a way that you can enjoy yourself and help others to enjoy themselves.
Speaking your mind is a powerful tool for people of all ages. It affords numerous opportunities in your personal and work life, whether you are talking from your seat in a friendly conversation or from your feet to a g roup of people. You will have pride in yourself and be considered a leader in your professional work.
Speaking effectively is an art. It is an excellent way to train your mind and to cultivate a vocabulary and expressive style that is truly yours. Giving voice to your thoughts, expressing what you really want to say, being courageous, being kind, are all hallmarks of a healthy mind.
Seize every opportunity for speaking your mind – it gives your brain cells a good workout. Think before you speak-what is it that you really want to say? Join in discussions-everyone has something important to contribute. Don’t talk to people or at people or over their heads. Talk with people and then, above all, listen. “Don’t use a 25-cent word when a 5-cent one will do.”
We all grew up using language, but few people today have an appreciation and understanding of conversation.
If we receive an education at all in public speaking, it is training in the art of debate. We are taught how to use words strategically to attack an opponent’s weak points, to defend our opinions, to cut our opponent to shreds with a few sharp words, to shoot down someone else’s ideas and to demolish their arguments. This is clearly not conversation but a very civilized form of warfare.
Suppose we began conversation not to persuade others, but to learn from them? Imagine how different life would be if, instead of competing in conversation, we were taught to value speaking itself. Suppose we approached conversation aesthetically: What if we began to look for elegance, beauty, and simplicity; to appreciate charismatic and creative delivery; to become engaged and transported by words? Suppose we listen to discover the complex beauty of another person’s ideas instead of listening with the intent of finding flaws? We might become wiser and more eloquent.

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