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EDITORIAL: Our Children’s Welfare Should Always Be Paramount

Today we remember two innocent lives lost in a tragic moment of madness, their father consumed by rage hanged himself after hanging his children. Their mother whom he knifed, is
30 Jul 2015 09:30
EDITORIAL: Our Children’s Welfare Should Always Be Paramount

Today we remember two innocent lives lost in a tragic moment of madness, their father consumed by rage hanged himself after hanging his children. Their mother whom he knifed, is in still in the hospital.

Three family members were snatched by the jaws of death in what appeared to be a murder-suicide tragedy in Kinoya last Saturday.

They will be cremated today. If she pulls through her ordeal,  she will live with the scars of a shattered dream. This was a happy family building its dream home in the residential heart of Kinoya with a $500,000 bank loan. The  couple held senior jobs  and she was doing further studies at the University of the South Pacific.

It was good news yesterday that she was moving her hands.

The question that everyone is asking is: Why did he do it?

Whatever it was, it drove him over the cliff.

It’s obvious there was some kind of trouble and he completely lost his mind.

According to professional counsellors, the tragedy could have been avoided if the husband and wife had agreed to counselling.

Jiokapeci Waqairadovu, a Suva professional counselor, said feuding partners, having problems, must seek early intervention from professionals. Ms Waqairadovu, who has counselled people for the past 15 years,  said she had helped many people resolve their problems, whether it is relationship issues, domestic violence, sexual assault, child abuse and even financial issues.

One of the problems in conflicts is the reluctance of people to talk. They keep bottling their grievances and then explode one day.

The message needs to go out that help is available and people need to seek it out.

Communication is a vital unit of any relationship. If things are not going the way they should we should not stop talking. Under the guidance of professional counsellors, talks can continue to search for a solution.

Apart from private professional counsellors, help is also available from the Ministry of Women, Children and Poverty Alleviation and the Fiji Women’s Crisis Centre. Relationships are different from family to family and sometimes we face the same issues. So if you are going through some relationship challenges right now, the chances are you are not alone. Communication breakdown is one of main causes of relationship problems.

When two people go into a relationship they come from different upbringing and backgrounds. These differences, if not understood earlier in the relationship could cause problems later. They could lead to suspicion, distrust and bitter acrimony when relationships break up. Children are usually the innocent victims.

For the sake of our children and their future, no effort should be spared in trying to repair rifts in a family.

Feedback: nemani.delaibatiki@fijisun.com.fj

 

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