Choose compassion over hate: Sexual and Gender Diversity Network responds to Dr Leli’s death

The Pacific Sexual and Gender Diversity Network (PSGDN) says the tragic passing of Dr Isireli Biumaitotoya commonly known as Leighley (Leli) Darling, is a painful reminder of the urgent need to end transphobia, protect vulnerable communities, and ensure justice and equality for all.

In a statement, PSGDN Interim CEO Loata Tucika said the network was deeply saddened by the loss of Dr Leli's passing, describing the Nadi-based medical professional and social media personality as a beloved member of the Pacific LGBTQI+ community.

“We extend our heartfelt condolences to Dr Leli’s family, friends, and all those who loved this remarkable individual,” Ms Tucika said.

She said Dr Leli lived openly and unapologetically, sharing a journey with courage and truth.

PSGDN strongly condemned the hate, violence, and dehumanisation directed towards LGBTQI+ people.

“No one should ever be unsafe or denied dignity because of who they are or how they live their lives,” Ms Tucika said.

The organisation said some online commentary following the death had disrespected the memory of Dr Leli and the family’s grief, while also creating fear and insecurity for many LGBTQI+ people in Fiji and the Pacific.

“We urge everyone, especially the mainstream media and social media users, to respect Dr Leli’s family during this difficult time, refrain from harmful speculation, and remember that words online can deepen trauma for families and communities.”

The tragedy, PSGDN said, highlights the need for:

• Stronger anti-discrimination protections and enforcement.
• Survivor-centred responses from police, health, and justice systems.
• Safe and inclusive schools.
• Greater accountability from social media platforms in addressing harmful content.
• Reliable funding for frontline community services.

“We call on leaders, communities, and every Pacific Islander to choose compassion over hate, to stand for dignity, and to uphold the humanity of all people,” Ms Tucika said.

PSGDN encouraged individuals in need of support to reach out to trusted networks, medical or mental health care providers, community groups, legal services, or crisis helplines where available.